‘No, it’s not you, it’s me. Can we still be friends? Right now, I just feel I need to see… another job.’
As a billion cheesy songs will tell you, breaking up is hard to do. But sometimes it really is for the best, for both of you.
Yeah, it’s a big step. After all, you worked so hard to get here, especially if it’s your first proper job. But, as can happen with any relationship, you’re not as compatible as you thought you were.
How can you be sure? Ask yourself this. Do you have to psych yourself up to go to work? If every day feels like an ordeal, it probably is. Is there someone in the team that is causing you great grief? Is this likely to change?
But before you jump, try to consider how to fix it. Talk to someone more senior at work, like a line manager or somebody in HR. Explain what you perceive to be the problem or difficulty. You’re not progressing. You’re not using your skillset. You’re not enjoying the work. It doesn’t meet the expectations set by the company etc.
And don’t leave it at that. Ask for ideas to improve the situation. Invite them to input and give it a bit of time. If you don’t get the answers you need – well, that’s an answer in itself.
Time to start looking elsewhere and planning your exit. And hey, you’ll get over it. There are plenty more fish in the sea.